I have never spent time with my dad like I have on this trip. That has easily been the biggest thing for me, and I knew it would be from the start. When he invited me to come join him for a segment of his trip around the world, of course the opportunity to travel and see more of the world excited me, but getting to participate in a big dream of his has been a thrill. This would have been a much different trip if I was crewing on another boat. I’ve grown up sailing with him during the summers at Indian Point, and though I wouldn’t label myself a sailor, he has passed on to me a love for the wind and the water. This time, instead of crisscrossing the bay with him or heading out to Sequin Island, I got to embark on a voyage alongside him.
The sailing aspect of the trip has been unlike any other experience. A few things about ocean sailing surprised me. For one, most of the sailboats I’ve been on before don’t even have an engine available; I did not expect to be motoring at all, really. The daysailing that I’ve done before is also filled with tacking and jibing, working through coastal waters filled with obstacles. Out on open water, however, we set a course and as long as the wind holds, we maintain that point of sail. Our last passage was the first time we tacked or jibed throughout my whole time aboard. Strange. The open water also presented my first cases of seasickness. All my years out on sailboats, I never remember feeling sick; I now realize that was probably due to short trips and relatively calm waters. The first week or so was definitely a struggle for me.
I did not expect for No Regrets to feel like as much of a home to me as it does now. Don’t get me wrong, I’m excited for my bed and nightly hot showers, but I will miss life aboard. Tim’s interesting culinary concoctions from the galley, the excitement of late afternoon when the sweltering heat finally subsides, long discussions about anything and everything (you’d be surprised the random stuff that can come up when three guys are hiding from the sun in the cockpit, too hot to move). I also read and meditate much more often without the constant distractions of things like television. Television in particular is something I have NOT missed.
Getting to know Indonesia on land has gone beyond any expectation I had prior to arriving — to be honest, I had absolutely no idea what this country would be like. First and foremost, every place we have sailed into has greeted us with a warmth and kindness that I have never truly felt before. America’s attitude toward Islamic culture can be a little overwhelming at times, and to experience the love and beauty of a predominantly Islamic nation firsthand has been an amazing experience. The beauty of hearing a woman read, which is actually singing, the Quran was pretty amazing, and calls to prayer become interesting background sound to the day.
Being that I was pretty clueless about what to expect, I went through a bit of culture shock — I think we all did — especially in our initial port of Tual. We sailed in to the harbor late at night. In my mind I was expecting villages, but the lights of a city glimmered in the darkness. We anchored and finally got to sleep, exhausted from our five-day passage, only to be awakened by voices ringing out through several speakers along the coast; it was our first call to prayer. Though we didn’t know at the time, we had arrived on the eve of their New Year. It was a somewhat ominous feeling at first, but I have grown accustomed to prayers playing throughout the city, and come to appreciate them (as long as there aren’t four of them competing at once).
The sheer excitement by everyone, especially the children, of the arrival of the tourists was quite a shock as well. We were bombarded by people eager to say hello and take pictures with us, especially in Tual and Bau Bau. We are the “Bule”, which is what they call foreigners — well, white foreigners (nothing negative behind it at all). Though it may have been overwhelming at times, it was so much fun to be around that kind of excitement and happiness, and the spotlight isn’t so bad once in a while! There were no expectations — okay, maybe for photos, but it was fun — just smiles all around.
Another thing that came as a bit of a shock to me were the living conditions of many people in Indonesia. I have been around very low levels of poverty in Peru and the Dominican Republic, but I don’t think I could ever get used to seeing what many people in the world endure. I like to think I’m aware of things that go on in the world, but when I’m back in my comfortable home in the US, I am so distant from many harsh realities that they often aren’t completely real to me. Things we take completely for granted are often luxuries — toilets, 24-hour electricity, beds for everyone. We saw this up close when we were invited to dinner at someone’s home in Komodo, which was an amazing time spent connecting, learning about daily struggles, and eating some of the most amazing food that we have had. But even with daily struggles, the general attitude everywhere we have been is not a depressing one. The attitude of the people is inspiring, and I am leaving Indonesia with a renewed energy for my studies in mechanical engineering and renewable energy. There are many places that we visited that could benefit from simple, culturally appropriate technologies for their everyday tasks and issues. I hope to take my engineering knowledge and passion to help the world… Now, the next step is for me to start narrowing down exactly how I plan to do that.
I’ve made an active effort to open myself up as much as possible to opportunities that present themselves and the culture that surrounds me. One thing that has really helped me connect is learning the Indonesian language. The more I have learned, the more I feel I have been able to bond with local people and the culture on a much deeper level. Our guides have been pretty excited when I’ve started speaking “Bahasa Indonesia,” and getting closer with them has led to a multitude of opportunities. Most of the time their English is way beyond my Bahasa, so while they help me with sentence structure and new vocabulary, I would help with English idioms and phrases, which included “piece of cake”, “pedal to the metal”, “peace out” and “it is what it is” (which I was taught in Bahasa as well: Ini la adanya).
Jumping at opportunities, sometimes impulsively, has also allowed me to further close the gap between me and Indonesia. Two of these stand out most for me. One big chance I jumped at was renting motorbikes with Ruy and Daphne, a couple sailing with us, and going out with a couple of our guides, Ulhy and Sahur. I got to be out on the streets of Bau Bau, finding the order in the seemingly crazy traffic of the city. It can be pretty hectic, and many intersections don’t have traffic lights — first come, first serve — but for the most part, everyone follows the unwritten rules. I got a sort of extended tour, and they brought us out to see more of the country, ending with the most beautiful remote waterfall. I got to drive fast, too, as we ripped through the streets…sorry Mom! I also got the chance to see where Ulhy lives. It was amazing to visit the non-touristy side of the city and see how many people live.
The other very memorable opportunity I seized was participating in “Belipat”, the local form of stick fighting in East Belitung, our last stop before docking the boat in Nongsa. A welcome event was put on for the Bule. Six young men enter to intense drums, fanning out and beginning a warrior-like dance. They then break into two groups of three, kneeling on either side of the stage of sand, and in walks a man donned in all purple — the referee. Then the battle begins. Each fighter holds a stick, about four feet in length. He is only permitted to strike his opponent on the back, and the winner is the man with the least amount of marks on his back when the referee declares it is over. After two fights, they invited one of us up to do battle — I raised my hand. It was an intense experience, and I did fairly well with my blocks, but my hits did not land as well. In the end I was left with a pretty marked up back, but my pride was fairly intact, and it was by far one of the most fun experiences. I felt nothing but sheer competitiveness and adrenaline as we stared each other down; it was strongest and most raw connection to the culture that I had yet to feel.
I’m not quite sure how to conclude all of this. I’m still processing most of this trip as I sit in the cockpit of the boat writing this, with tonight being my last night in Indonesia. I expect returning to the US to be just as big of a culture shock as it was arriving into port in Tual. I’ve enjoyed this time with my dad an immense amount, and I’m going to miss that. Tim and I have bonded, too; I’m going to miss No Regrets. Indonesia has made a huge impact on me, and I will return here someday. But for now, on to the next adventure, I suppose.
Here are some of my favorite pix, some new, some you may have seen before.
8 thoughts on “Jesse’s Thoughts”
wow, great write up Dint! love you!
Wow, great post from Jesse. It’s been amazing following the blog and Jesse’s experience is icing on the cake. Congratulations, on year one to Zeke, Jesse and all!
What an exciting adventure you have been able to share with your dad! Thanks so much for taking the time to put it all down for the rest of us to read. And the pictures are great! I hope you can put your engineering knowledge to use to help the world.
Loved these reflections Jesse, and Zeke’s last post too. I’ve so enjoyed vicariously following your adventure. I know how life-changing these things can be and usually are! While Zeke you’ll be returning for more, I look forward to seeing how you both are changed and inspired from such a wonderful journey. What a gift! Thank you and safe travels home. Xo Victoria
PS when I have returned from my 6 month winters in Thailand the thing that usually freaks me the most is going into a store line Costco – and remembering how little 3rd world populations have. And all the smiles that I usually encounter, without all the material stuff. Good luck to u!
PPS Zeke, from many of your reflections during the year, I wouldn’t be surprised if you detoured to Paris to lobby for climate change at that meeting of world leaders!!
Jesse, this was a joy to read, thanks for posting your thoughts so candidly and have a happy US holiday season…Peter Winter
What a great experience to have. Glad you have enjoyed it. It has been great hearing about your adventures.
YAY!!! See you soon around the ‘hood.
Hey Jesse! So great to read your words! I love that you and your dad (2 of my dear ones) got to have this experience together. It is awesome for you, as a young adult, to really get to experience what you have,,, especially in terms of the welcome and beauty of the Muslim people you met, and also the extreme poverty that you witnessed. I know many people (younger and older) who have had similar experiences traveling and working in the Global South, I am hoping that I will organize the next phase of my life to include traveling and working directly in some of these countries. In any event, I am moved by your words, and I deeply admire and respect how you engaged in this adventure. When people who are different from us become our friends, then there is no “they” – only “we” and “us” on this journey together. For my part, working as part of a team towards true social and economic justice in the world makes me want to get up in the morning, and also to live a long time in order to work shoulder-to-shoulder with generations younger than me to achieve this. Happy to be on your team!